Words Matter PD | Bernajean Porter

Mastering Language Patterns for Rapid Recovery, Reducing Anxiety, Resourcefulness, Impact on Others while Influencing Possibility Thinking and Decision-Making in Others

Enjoy a practical and uplifting exploration of "Words as Power"

using simple, yet successful, science-based strategies for

elevating personal resourcefulness; using empowering strategies

to minimize the impact of unexpected changes for self and

others; impacting others for good in the world; and increasing

“change hardiness” for decision-making and creativity using effective language patterns.

Menu for 30 Minute Interactive Sessions*

Each of the following choices focuses on long-used language patterns

that yield results! Select as many or as few as appeals.

*Language Patterns will be Introduced - Modeled with

Group Practice Time . . . Closing with Reflections

2. Rapid Recovery - Reducing Anxiety and Moving Forward! Setbacks are one of life’s certainties and a universal part of the human experience. Short language patterns support letting go and quickly garnering the resourcefulness needed to move forward. But there’s good news, too. Research studies, and likely your own experience, show that resilience in the face of adversity can help ensure that you bounce back, reduce the effects of stress, and even release the energy needed to be a “solutionary.”

4. Self-Talk - Whatever Story You tell Yourself Becomes Reality! It isn’t the situation that causes hurt and pain but the story you tell yourself about it. As you keep repeating it, the story grows more real in your head. When you repeat it enough, it starts defining you. The story told in any business or community culture will also become reality if repeated and repeated. What perspective do you choose? What story do you choose to REALLY live in?

3. Toxic Positivity - The Dark Side of Positive Vibes - vs Tragic Optimism. To deny that life has its share of disappointments, frustrations, losses, hurts, setbacks, and sadness would be unrealistic and untenable. No amount of positive thinking exercises will change this truth. Suggesting to yourself or others to stay positive in difficult situations is toxic. What do you say instead? Honoring difficulties FIRST! How do I help myself and others stay resourceful? How can "tragic optimism" serve me and others even better?

5. Cleaning Emotional Residue

Emotions are known to unsuspectingly clog many of us up from making choices and taking actions that serve us best.

Letting go of “all that is not yours and all that is no longer needed” uses language patterns in a simple process.

Two kinesthetic processes will be verbally guided for participants to experience with take-away resources for an ongoing do-it-yourself ritual

6. Possibility Thinking - Activating Decision-Making and Solutionaries Many people find themselves unintentionally “stuck” when called upon to develop and communicate ideas. “I don’t know” is a buzz killer in meetings, collaborative teams and large or small think tank groups.. It’s as true for speaking as it is for writing. Simple language patterns can now activate an individual’s willingness to express and share ideas that have likely been protected by a critical-self, unsure of whether their ideas are “good enough.” The world needs the best of us!

7. Removing Limiting Beliefs

Our beliefs create our reality. Limiting beliefs are subconscious thoughts that can be created by “adopting” beliefs from others or can be beliefs that were once serving you but no longer needed. Beliefs are NOT facts. While growing up and living our lives, we make meanings from the world around us; those interpretations and perceptions are recorded by the subconscious mind and then become beliefs or rules we live by. The problem arises when they are kept beyond their usefulness. Finding and eliminating limiting beliefs from your subconscious mind and replacing them with ALIGNED empowering ones is the most impactful and powerful thing for living a BEST life.

8. Non-Verbal Communication Can Be Commanded Using Two [2] Different Voice Tones

Participants will be introduced to authoritative/confident voice tone pattern compared to a relationship/inviting voice tone pattern. These two voice patterns get different results from listeners. People generally lean towards one or the other. However, both voice tones are quite useful and necessary for successful communication, both at work and at home.